Top 7 Questions Parents Ask About Baby Sleep—And the Gentle Answers That Work

Sleep is one of the biggest challenges for new parents, and it’s no wonder so many have questions!

As a certified Sleep Nanny® partner, I hear the same concerns I hear from families time and again—so let’s answer the most common ones with gentle, evidence-based advice.

1. Why won’t my baby sleep through the night?
It’s natural for babies to wake during the night, especially in the early months. However, persistent sleep disruptions may indicate a need for gentle guidance. Every child is unique, and the right sleep plan can help them learn healthy sleep habits—without “cry it out”, however, this plan needs to be individual to you and your child. Otherwise you may find that generic advise just doesn't work or doesn't sit right with you.

2. How much sleep does my child really need?
Sleep needs vary by age, temperament, and development. Most newborns need 14–17 hours, while toddlers need 11–14. But there’s no “one size fits all”—that’s why personalized support is so effective.

(I have a free sleep needs chart that give average needs for ages o-6+, if you want it drop me an email).

3. What’s the best bedtime routine?
Consistency is key! A calming, predictable routine—bath, story time, cuddles—signals to your child that it’s time to wind down. Mindfulness and positive psychology techniques can ease transitions and reduce bedtime resistance. But there is not magic routine, find what works for your family and then stick with it!

4. Is it okay to co-sleep?
This is a personal choice for each family. The lullaby trust is a great source if you want to learn more about safe co-sleeping but the recommendation is for little (and big ones!) to have an independent sleep space, with a flat, firm mattress and no loose coverings. (I do think it is important to familiarise yourself with safe co-sleeping advise for those nights when you do co-sleep.) If you want to transition away from co-sleeping, gentle methods can help your child feel safe and secure in their own sleep space, at their own pace.

5. Why does my toddler fight naps?
Nap resistance is common—often due to overtiredness or a need for more structure. Gentle adjustments to timing, environment, and expectations can make a big difference. Be aware also that temperament has a lot to do with this as does an every curios mind. Naps are boring to a toddler but also very important.

6. What if my child wakes up anxious or scared?
Night fears are normal, especially as children grow and from the age of around 3+. Validating their feelings, using calming techniques, and creating a secure environment can help reduce night-time anxiety.

7. Can gentle sleep coaching really work?
Absolutely! I’ve helped countless families achieve better sleep with a compassionate, tailored approach—no harsh methods, just science-backed support.

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